Getting married young; one of the best decisions I ever made!
If I could go back in time, would I have waited a little longer? Had a longer engagement? Waited until our careers kicked off? Not even for a second. For us the timing was perfect.
Maybe your story is different, and that is perfectly okay. That's one thing I love about relationships- everyone has a different story!
My husband and I said "I do" at the age of 21. Now we have been married for two sweet years! Most of our time consists of joy, laughs, and many hugs. I'm such a cuddler!! Rem would say "Amen" to that. We truly have so much fun together. We've had our fair share of hardships and frustrations, like any other couple. I would say in those long nights of me crying and the weekends of us being upset with one another, we have grown together. We overcame the obstacles. To look back at those long sad nights, I wouldn't trade them because it's helped our marriage be what it is today. This beautiful, sweet, loving relationship.
Here are some benefits we have experienced from getting married at a young age.
1. Growing up together
Because you met when you were young, you have grown together through the different stages of life. You know, those awkward high school days, through the stress of college midterms, to getting your first big kid jobs!
Through all of that, you really become adults together. Which is quite special because along the way you learn a lot of lessons, some easy, some hard. The best part is, you're going through those trials with your biggest supporter, your spouse. Because you're young, you have more time to nourish and cultivate your relationship.
2. Season of firsts
Firsts, ahh... our favorite. My first real boyfriend, first wedding (and only), first lovers and best friends. How exciting it is to rent your first apartment together, buy your first bedroom set, your first kitchen table. Better yet, your first Costco membership. (How many bulk items do two people need? I'm not quite sure, but it's worth it.)
You have so many first time experiences together since you haven't actually had time to do it on your own.
3. More shared life experiences
You will have less of those "I wish you were there" moments. Every vacation, every holiday, and every day you get to be with your spouse. You could look back and wish they were there when you were at such a low point. You could also look back, wishing they could have been on your favorite vaca, on the beach and in the waves.
Each and every memory you think of, you know that day would have been better off with "your love" as I like to say.
Nothing is more fun to us than sharing so many events together. Big or small, we love them all!
4. Make mistakes together
It is no secret that if you're in your 20's, you ARE going to make mistakes in pretty much every area of your life! Only now, you make them together. Which actually isn't the worst! While experiencing those hardships and being vulnerable with each other, you grow. The love that your spouse has for you is what keeps your marriage strong. They will fight for you when you can't fight for yourself. How cool is it to see them grow year after year, as an individual and as a friend.
5. Not settling
Some people believe that when you get married young, you’re doing it off a whim. That you are infatuated with the idea of marriage. I would say, that is not true at all. We didn't get married because we were bored and thought it would give us something to do. We got married because we knew we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives. Yes, we found each other early in life, which was a huge blessing for the both of us! Marriage fits our personalities so well. Plus you don't have to go on all those awkward dates trying to find "the one" before your big "3-0".
6. Travel buddy
You always have somebody to adventure with! Wooo.
Someone who will share 45% of their suitcase, because you can hardly zip your own (totally guilty).
You are young, so you may not always have a lot of freedom with your finances. Traveling doesn't have to be anywhere far and expensive. It could be to the nearest national park on your 3 day weekend! (Word. That's what we're all about!!)
I'm sure some of your favorite memories will be made in the little trips.
7. Setting goals
You're young, how many goals have you really accomplished in your adult life? What a fun thing to do together. By setting goals, you gain countless "seasons of firsts". Setting goals is an excellent way to be on the same page. Dreaming of the future with the human you love, how fun is that! I can't express how important it is to sit together and jot down your spiritual, financial, and personal goals.
Remington and I took this course called "Financial Peace University" by Dave Ramsey. Was that the best thing we've done since being married or what? We highly recommend FPU! Dave teaches you how to budget, how to save, how to invest and most importantly, how to have fun doing it!
Rem and I currently live in this tiny studio. By tiny, I mean 225 sq. ft. tiny. After all it is Orange County, do we have much of a choice?! We do, but our goal is to save as much as we can before we have kids. We can't wait until the day we can buy our first house! We're saving, we're goal setting but most importantly, we are having fun while doing it!
One thing I love about relationships is that we ALL have a different story. Every relationship and the timing is beautifully different. No judgment if you never get married. The single life is better for some people. After all, Jesus was single!!
I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on "Getting married young". Let me know, did you enjoy getting married young? Would you have waited a little longer? Or, are you single at 30 and loving it? Whatever the case, I would love to listen!